By Lucky Isibor
A civil society actor, human rights activist and Executive Director of the Africa Network for Environment and Economic Justice (ANEEJ), Rev. David Ugolor has called for collective action from both state actors, non state actors, civil society organisations and the general public in the eradication of domestic violence in the society, pleading that the menace should not be treated as a mere private matter, but a societal issue that demands our collective resolve, our empathy, and action.
Ugolor made the call in his welcome address at the launching of the book titled, “Surviving Domestic Violence: My Life Story”, authored by Oduware Patience Asemota (Esq), a State Counsel in the Edo State Ministry of Justice and survivor of domestic violence. The book launch which was held at the John Odigie Oyegun Public Service Academy JOOPSA on Saturday, 25 January was co-hosted by ANEEJ and De Moat Hub.
While emphasising why the event was co-hosted by ANEEJ and De Moat Hub, both under his stewardship; Ugolor pointed out that, “This significant event is co-hosted by DeeMoat Hub and the Africa Network for Environment and Economic Justice (ANEEJ), further emphasizing our collective commitment to addressing and combating domestic violence.
“This book launch aims to illuminate the pressing issue of domestic violence, inspire resilience among victims, and advocate for enhanced protective measures within our society. Domestic violence remains a grave challenge, threatening the foundation of our homes, the well-being of individuals, and the development of our communities. It is not merely a private matter but a societal issue that demands our collective resolve, our empathy, and our action.
“Today’s event is a clarion call for us to reaffirm our commitment to creating a society where everyone—irrespective of gender, age, or status—can live free from violence and fear. As the Executive Director of ANEEJ and DeeMoat Hub, I am particularly proud to associate with this cause, as it aligns seamlessly with our mission to promote social justice, equity, and accountability. Interestingly, this book is a testament to resilience, a source of empowerment for survivors, and a valuable resource for policymakers, advocates, and communities striving for change. We believe that a society free from violence in all its forms is fundamental to sustainable development”.
While commending Governor Monday Okpebholo for his commitment to the welfare of women and children, Ugolor noted that the book launch aligns with the provisions of the Edo State Violence Against Persons (Prohibition) Law (VAPP) and commended the author for her courage, vision, and dedication to shedding light on this issue, and charged the public to take action.
“I must commend Barr. Oduware Asemota for her courage, vision, and dedication to shedding light on this issue. Writing a book of this nature requires not only intellectual rigor but also immense compassion and determination. Through her words, she has brought to light the realities faced by many and provided practical pathways to healing and hope.To His Excellency, the Governor of Edo State, Senator Monday Okpebholo, we are deeply grateful for your unwavering support and your exemplary leadership in championing the rights and welfare of women and children.
“This book launch also aligns perfectly with the provisions of the Edo State Violence Against Persons (Prohibition) Law (VAPP), which was enacted to address gender-based violence and provide support for survivors. The law reflects the state’s dedication to safeguarding its citizens, and Surviving Domestic Violence serves as a complementary resource to educate, empower, and inspire action in line with this progressive legislation. Together, they provide a framework and a narrative to combat domestic violence effectively within our communities.To all our distinguished guests, your presence here is a testament to your shared passion for justice and humanity. It is a reminder that we all have a role to play—whether as advocates, policymakers, caregivers, or supporters—in ending domestic violence and building a safer society”.
In his remarks, Edo State Head of Service, Dr. Anthony Okungbowa enumerated the steps taken by the Senator Monday Okpebholo’s administration to combat domestic violence adding that the Governor has been supporting relevant government agencies to that effect.
According to the Head of Service who was represented by Mrs. Jennifer Aisuan, a Permanent Secretary in the Edo State Civil Service, “To demonstrate government commitment to eradicating this menace from the society, government in 2021 signed the Violence Against Persons Prohibition Law which aims to eliminate violence in private and public life, prohibit all forms of violence against persons and provide maximum protection and effective remedies for survivors”.
The book reviewer, former Edo State Attorney General and Commissioner for Justice, Prof. Yinka Omorogbe (SAN) tasked parents, especially mothers to bring up their children with particular reference to the boys to avoid violence against their spouses. She pointed out that domestic violence will reduce when the men are properly brought up and understand it’s only weak men who mete violence on their spouses.
In her remarks, author of the book Patience Asemota (Esq) pointed out that the book is more than personal story, noting that it is message of hope and liberation for those who have suffered in silence, adding that it is a call to action for those who can make a difference.
While admonishing victims that it is a righteous thing to do to come out of a toxic relationship, Asemota said, “Through my story, I aim to shed light on the dark corners of domestic violence, break the silence, and inspire others to speak out.
“I hope that my experiences will serve as a beacon of hope, guiding those who are struggling to find their voices and their strengths. Many lives have been lost, many potentials have been buried, many have sustained various kinds of disabilities and many have been rendered useless as a result of this scourge.I encourage victims of domestic violence to break the deafening silence and speak out against this inhumanity.I tell you boldly today that it is a righteous thing to do to come out of a toxic relationship. It is not an abominable thing as the society paints it and is not sinful as religious people paint it”.
In a goodwill message, the Manager of tge Edo State Vivian Centre, Dr. Grace Edebor urged victims to utilise the services of the centre which include medical, legal and counselling services which she said are free.
High point of the event was the unvailing of the book, Surviving Domestic Violence: My True Life Story and the official launching of the book by dignitaries on the occasion.